It’s been just over a year since I became qualified as a crystal healing practitioner, and as I have said in previous posts, like The Day That Lapis Lazuli Changed My Life, doing that first crystal healing course was one of the many small steps that lead me down a life path I would otherwise never have anticipated.
I’ve met hundreds of new people this year; like-minded people; beautiful people on the path of personal and spiritual growth – and it’s been reassuring to know that ultimately, we’re all in this thing called life, together.
Here are some of the lessons I’ve learnt (or re-learnt) in the last 12 months:
We are all in desperate need of more self love
Through my sessions with clients and a few of the online communities where I invest my time, the issue of self love comes up again and again – or rather it manifests in the basic premise of not being enough / not being worthy etc. In so many cases, we are being driven by subconscious fears or limiting beliefs that we inherited in childhood (or even later in life), and it all holds us back from truly achieving our full potential.
They say that the most important relationship we will ever have is the relationship with ourselves. And, that others will treat you in whichever way you will allow them.
So my take is that we have to love ourselves more. Easier said than done, I know! But this might mean distancing yourself from anyone who makes you unhappy or who brings negativity into your life. It may mean doing more of what you love – or at least, much less of the crap you hate doing!; trying new things, making new friends. Ask yourself often – “what makes my sing”? Then go do it!
For others, more self-love might mean more self-care. Like treating yourself to “me time” in whatever form makes you happy – massages, baths, walks, sleep, meditation, going on holidays, manicures, pedicures, hair cuts, eating out with friends – the list is really endless, but again, is about carving out time to nurture yourself. Treat yourself how you would like others to treat you!
Some of the crystals that can invoke self love include pink danburite, magnesite, rose quartz and rhodonite.
Gratitude is one of the most positive energies we can tap into
The importance of gratitude was really hammered home to me during my work in the Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp by Denise Duffield Thomas. Even though the Bootcamp is about money mindset, the lessons about gratitude have been profound.
This year, I intentionally started to track daily, at least three things I was grateful for. I first started tracking in the Gratitude365 app on my phone, but after a couple of months it all felt too fiddly and I wanted to be able to do more than just list items. Sometimes I felt like drawing pictures or symbols, so I migrated my gratitude practice to a dedicated gratitude journal. I now try to find at least 8-10 things every day I’m grateful for. And it can be as simple as “I’m grateful to be able to look out my window and see a gorgeous jacaranda tree in full bloom.”
Cultivating an “attitude of gratitude” is powerful, because you start to focus on what you have rather than on what you don’t have. And the Law of Attraction says that you attract more of what you focus on.
Want more money in your life? Be grateful for the assets you already have; make sure you’re showing your things “respect”. If you’re not using stuff around the house, ditch it or donate it it to make way for the things you do want! Want more love? Be grateful for the love already in your life – think friends, family, community etc. Again, if you focus on, and be grateful for what you do have, you’ll attract more of it into your life.
Forgiveness is one of our most powerful allies
Forgiveness is also a powerful tool if you want to move forward in your life.
Not being able to forgive and move on can keep people stuck in the murk for days, months and unfortunately, YEARS! Not being able to forgive can manifest as aches, pains and disease in the body; it can drag you down energetically.
And while forgiveness is not about condoning awful behaviour, or wrongs that have been inflicted on you, it is about letting that person go in order to set yourself free.
Ho’oponopono, an ancient Hawaiian technique used for reconciliation and forgiveness, is one of the most effective ways of forgiving yourself or someone else.
The script is simply:
Please forgive me.
I thank you.
You don’t need to say this to the other person – you can just visualise them and say the words out loud. This process may invoke tears. Ugly snotty tears in some cases, as was my experience – but there is deep emotional release in those ugly snotty tears.
I now routinely sit for 15-20 minutes and repeat this mantra over and over, visualising people who hurt or wronged me in the past.
This clip by Dawn Priolette combines both Ho’oponopono and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or “tapping”.
At first, it might feel odd and it might feel like you have to “fake it to you make it” on the forgiveness front – but having worked with these two practices very regularly this year (and recommending that my clients do the same), I feel lighter, less agro and less likely to be triggered by trivial things. Life seems to flow more easily.
Crystals that can support forgiveness include: pink/mangano calcite, chrysoprase, apache tear (a form of black obsidian, but not quite so intense), smokey quartz, rhodonite, sugilite, serpentine and topaz.
“Doing the work” is a lifelong work in progress – there are always new layers to work through
This is a tough one! Often, when you’re doing personal and spiritual development and feel like it’s all coming together, one little setback can then make it feel like it’s all falling apart. And over the long term, we can start to feel a sense of deja vu – like “How on earth did I get myself into THIS type of situation AGAIN?”
Can you relate?
The Universe continues to throw us into situations that ensure we learn the lessons we need to learn – so if you notice patterns in your life, it’s a sign that there’s a lesson you need to learn, re-learn or remember.
This year for example, is a #9 year, the final year in this nine-year cycle, and a year of endings and completions.
Elizabeth Peru, who creates The Tip Off Global Energy Forecast and whose work I can’t recommend highly enough, asked her subscribers to look at what was going on in 2008 – the first year of this current nine-year cycle. What things had we started back then; what seeds had we planted for the cycle and what did we need to be wrapping up this year?
When I did this exercise, the parallels between what was going on in my life in 2008 and this year, were uncanny. Eerily so. And I have spent the better part of this year, systematically exploring each area of my life and asking whether my beliefs in each area are healthy or unhealthy. Are they serving me or not? If they’re not, I write them down on paper and burn them under a full moon. It’s symbolic – and it may take a few goes to release deeply seated crap, BUT it’s worth persisting. And it’s also recognising that this stuff can continue to come up – but the more aware you are of your patterns, habits and triggers, the better equipped you are to stop them in their tracks and choose a different response.
I’ve had many discussions with clients about these types of patterns. Even just realising that you keep repeating behaviours can provide a massive AHA moment! Many of us also carry genetic or karmic patterns that we’re completely unaware of. I was grateful to learn how to use crystals this year, to facilitate ancestral healing and cut energetic cords in a powerful way. Petrified wood and amber are two crystals that are great for working with ancestors!
And all of this comes back to the first point: we are all in desperate need of more self love. Drop the negative self talk! Speak to yourself as you would your best friend. Treat yourself as you would treat your nearest and dearest. Believe that things are going to be ok!
One of my favourite spiritual teachers is Abraham / Esther Hicks. There are thousands of video clips of her teachings, but the one I keep coming back to time after time is this 15-minute meditation: Everything is always working out for me.
I’ve recommended this to many of clients and they love it – it’s so uplifting. And even if you have you “fake it until you make it” in believing that things ARE always working out for you, do it!
The final lesson (for this post at least) that I can take away from my first year in crystal healing, is to follow your heart and have faith, and that if you do, things will work out. The path may not take you to where you thought you wanted to go, but it will lead you to where you need to go for your highest good.
Did any of these insights resonate with you? Do you for example already practice gratitude, and have you had positive experiences by doing so? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below 💗